You know those moments where you’re in a class for several hours and your attention span just seems to give up for a quick second? One evening, about half way into a three-hour course of Sociology, the words just struck at me and quickly brought me back in. I hadn’t heard something so accurate in quite a while.
“Don’t ever make anyone your whole world. There’s three things people do that are inevitable:
They move, they change and they die.”
As human beings, we feed off connections. As we connect with other people, we sometimes begin to lose our sense of self. We begin to adapt to others’ habits and behaviors and we may even inherit some along the way. You may find that there commences to be a decline in the things you once enjoyed while there’s an increase in other things which truly never really caught your attention; But you’ll do it anyway, because ideally, your desire for connection becomes stronger than your desire to remain in solitude. Ultimately, you become selfless. When this begins to happen, remind yourself to pick those things up again. Always keep a balance between what you love vs. who you love. And always remember to love yourself first and foremost.
It is the beginning of a new year, “a fresh start”, as many would call it. Although, in reality, every day is a fresh start, there is something about the end of a year or first day of the upcoming year that brings a tingle to your being. It makes many of us feel invincible and as most like to express: “This will be my year”.
Ringing in the new year this year was a little different than usual for me. I rang it in with most of my loved ones in a different country. This gave me an even larger sense of invincibility when greeting 2017. Looking over the mountains, in which we have none of back where I reside, seeing the incredible amounts of opportunity and endless beauty that the world and life itself has to offer was such an incredible feeling; a real eye opener.
Now, for myself, 2016 was not a terrible year as many claimed it to be. It was a year of much loss, but it just made me yearn for more. I learned plenty which allowed me to grow and for me, growth is one of the best things one can experience in order to proceed moving forward and further succeed. Ultimately, I am so incredibly excited for this year. I believe its going to be a great one for many of us. As long as you put the work in, the result should be nothing short of amazing. So, Happy 2017 to everyone and make sure you make every single day count!
Sometimes we overlook the wonderful things that begin to come together for us only through the lens of fear. We must remind ourselves, at these times, that not everything that can go wrong will.
Energy doesn’t lie.
Ever been in a situation where your intuition is signaling one thing, but you go against its warning? How did that end up for you? I’ll guess, probably not as you had hoped. Perhaps you found yourself self-pitying once things got sour. Now, have you ever been in a situation where you were presented with that bad energy and decided to steer clear? That choice probably served you damn right.
If you’ve ever had to question whether or not someone should be a part of your life, the answer is within the question itself. If the concern ever persists, there is usually always a reason. Trust the vibe and cut the imaginary chain. Life is too full of unbelievably good energies to allow anyone or anything to eliminate you from having it; And good vibrations will always follow good vibrations.
“Life is too short”. We read and hear it everywhere or we say it all of the time, not because it is a cliche, but because it is the cold hearted truth. Exactly how much do we actually let it sink in and influence the way we live? Probably not nearly as much as we should. We tend to take people and our blessings for granted far too often, forgetting that at any given time, all we will be left with are mere memories. So I say: appreciate everything beautiful, love unconditionally and live blissfully. For there is no such thing as forever, only a here and now.
Do you ever wonder, “what if”? Not so much in the form of regret, but more so as, “where would I be? How different would my life be right now if..”. Our entire lives are made up of decisions, whether they be major or minor. We sometimes have to choose from one or more options to be the best one for us. But how, regardless of how happy we may believe to be, do we ever know we made the right one?
As I configure my quarter century crisis, I always tell myself I know almost everything that I want in life and although the resources are not always at arms reach, the goal is very much possible. I suppose you can say modern aged women are placed with a tremendous amount of pressure before they reach their twenties. By the age of twenty, you should have it all figured out and you need to begin putting it all together throughout that decade you have coming along. Great. I once recall having a conversation with a woman twice my age. She was seemingly lost. Her entire life had been swept from under her feet. She had initially established it all in her twenties. From the ground up, she made a business and a family alongside a wonderful partner. That’s who she was. A business, a mother and a loving partner. Nearly a decade later, she had lost her business and her partner. Her maternal instincts never vanished, but she had. Without two important factors which made her who she thought she was, she was utterly and completely lost. Years after the hardships she faced living with the missing gaps, here we were. Her face, lost as that of a child who had been placed in the world far too early to fend for themselves. I simply turned to her in our discussion as she expressed how empty she felt and I said, “well, what do you like to do?”, assuming that keeping busy with daily activities will create some life inside of her again. She looked at me with the most frightened and blankest of stares. As if she had just seen a ghost. The thought of getting to know herself and who she truly was, was the most terrifying idea for her. Everything she knew to be was what her past included. She no longer had that. She had spent the next couple of years of her life merely existing. How unfortunate this was. A beautiful, intelligent woman with no idea who she was. She had allowed factors in her life to determine who she was. But that wasn’t who she was at all. This made me wonder. Are many of us guilty of this? Do we let the people in our lives sometimes control us to believe we are someone we aren’t? Do we live a life of content and not true happiness just to say we have it all? I immediately recognized, I was terrified of that idea.
Like a dagger, without the least bit of thought. “Pick up your own pieces”, he said. He was right. It was time to do just that, at last. They say the most beautiful of souls are those that have been damaged. I certainly believed so. I dedicated so much of myself on always trying to “fix” damaged souls. But what about me?